"Strange thoughts brew in your heart when you spend too much time with old books." (Aravind Adiga, The White Tiger)

Monday, October 1, 2007

Faking Your Way to Success!

A friend recently joined Facebookcrackland and posted some photos of other friends. Everyone immediately wrote in to tell her which photos of themselves they didn't like and to please remove!

Well as usual I have a problem with this sort of thing. Look, I'm not saying that you can't delete a photo of yourself in the privacy of your own home. But if you don't like a photo of yourself that someone else is waving around, I believe you should keep your mouth shut.


Pride! Come on people! When someone looks at a public photo of themselves and comments negatively on it, it feels to me like they're thinking: I have to point out to everyone that I know I look bad in this photo. I KNOW they're thinking "woah, he's so fat!" or "She looks like a moron" and I want them to know that I know!

The reality is... we all know what you look like! Friends and family see each other all the time, in many circumstances. There's nothing shocking about your pictures to anyone else, only to yourself. If you don't like to look at yourself, then fine, don't. But there's no point trying to stop others from looking at you, because we all have to do it all the time. If we found your looks to offensive, we wouldn't be friends with you.

Don't give in to this photo delete-ahj! I firmly believe that one of the best ways to change your mental reality is to start by faking it. You will feel better about your looks if you first stop vocalizing your self-criticisms. At the very least ACT like you love the way you look. It's attractive.

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